Mom makes daughter wear horrible thrift store clothes...

[speedkilz88]

First of all, the girl already knows she's poor and can't afford more expensive clothes. And second, your telling a person to go to a poor house to teach these poor people empathy for the poor who already know they are poor, but in another instance, your saying that it's wrong to make a bully wear clothes to understand how a poor person feels to empathize with that poor person who already know they are poor.

So yeah, I still really don't get your point.

Going by a another thread he just joined a new study and it explains everything.

 

[ABQCOWBOY]

You said "can not teach", but no matter.

But you are right, you can't force it to happen, only live the example in front of your kids.

You are right. I did say that. What I meant to say was that you can't make somebody feel compassion towards another human being. You can try to teach them compassion and that's a worthy endeavor but you can't make them learn it.

Right, not initially anyway, .. but making her child dress like the other little girl as her punishment was kind of cold.

Yeah, but I kinda believe in cold when that's what your child is showing you. I mean, that's not for everybody and I get that but I just think that picking on people, doesn't matter who the people are, for the sole reason of being less fortunate then you is about as cold as it gets for adolescents. I can't say that my child never acts like this towards another kid but I hope she has learned something. I can tell you that she was humiliated for the experience and my Wife had a very long discussion with her about why she felt humiliated. The entire reason she felt that way was the point of it all and I think she got it but who really knows? You do what you can and hope that they learn from it.

I know, .. that's ok. We're still good.

Yeah we are.

 

[KJJ]

Shopping tip: You can purchase shoes for $2 at a bowling alley.

 

[Tabascocat]

A tactic my parents used on me in the 8th grade......embarrass me in front of my class.

I was a class clown/instigator early on and was always standing in the corner or the teachers moved my desk into the hallway so I would not disrupt class. Nothing seemed to work, I just couldn't sit there and listen.

So, after a parent-teacher conference, they decided my parents would sit with me in the classroom and that is the last thing I wanted. I would have been a laughing stock if they actually went through with it, but the threat was all that was needed.

Needless to say, I turned into a pretty good student from that day forward

This mom should have maybe tried something like this IMO, put on the proper attire and escort her through school

I realize it is different these days but it sure was effective.

 

[WV Cowboy]

Going by a another thread he just joined a new study and it explains everything.

LOL, .. that was a long time ago, and seems like a different lifetime.

 

[WV Cowboy]

Yeah, but I kinda believe in cold when that's what your child is showing you.

I didn't mean cold to her own daughter, .. I meant cold to the other little girl.

Which has been my point in this thread.

 

[ABQCOWBOY]

I didn't mean cold to her own daughter, .. I meant cold to the other little girl.

Which has been my point in this thread.

I guess I just don't get the same vibe there. Little, if anything is said about the other girl in this article. I mean, we don't really know anything about the interaction between the mother, daughter and the other little girl. You can infer something but without really knowing, I can't say that it was or was not.

I understand what you are saying. The idea of dressing your child "down" so to speak. It lends itself to some sort of stigmatism towards the other child, with relation to her financial situation. However, the other child's financial situation is beyond the Mother's ability to correct. I get what you are saying but I don't think it can be affected by anything anybody can do. It's incumbent upon the child's parents or the child herself, once she is able to make her own way, to correct. The responsibility of the Mother is first to her own child.

I understand what you are saying but I just don't see this situation in that way I guess.

 

[WV Cowboy]

I guess I just don't get the same vibe there. Little, if anything is said about the other girl in this article. I mean, we don't really know anything about the interaction between the mother, daughter and the other little girl. You can infer something but without really knowing, I can't say that it was or was not.

I understand what you are saying. The idea of dressing your child "down" so to speak. It lends itself to some sort of stigmatism towards the other child, with relation to her financial situation. However, the other child's financial situation is beyond the Mother's ability to correct. I get what you are saying but I don't think it can be affected by anything anybody can do. It's incumbent upon the child's parents or the child herself, once she is able to make her own way, to correct. The responsibility of the Mother is first to her own child.

I understand what you are saying but I just don't see this situation in that way I guess.

You are right, not much has been said about the other girl, and yet the entire article points to her situation.

I know, I've said it a couple of times in this thread, .. it may just be me, but I just keep thinking about the actual victim in all of this, .. and how she has been impacted.

Once by the girls at school, and then by the Mom dressing her daughter like she did, and now by this story as it hits the internet.

How many times does she have to hear, "you're poorer than us."

I'm not really concerned about the mother or her daughter, they'll be fine I'm sure.

 

[CanadianCowboysFan]

" I'm gonna pop some tags, only got twenty dollars in my pocket "....

I wear your grandad's clothes, I look incredible, I am in the is big ,,, coat, from that Thrift Shop down the road.