But this fan forum isn't the real world. People don't talk to each other like some do here, in the real world. Not to mention that there are unfair biases here I won't get into, but it's BS. That's why I step away from it from time to time because the negativity here isn't going to ruin my good time. I know NON Dallas fans that are more realistic than some here. Toxic for no reason.
Real world? No, cyber world? Yes This is the major complaint I see about all social media. People leave their empathy and humanity behind when they go to these sites.
Allowing some human beings anonymity removes their human qualities and they become hurtful and at times, vicious. They see nothing wrong with taking their frustrations out on someone they do not know and will most likely, they hope, never meet.
But G, you are right, it happens here too frequently and I didn't realize that until I began to moderate the forums. Many filled with anger just itching to unleash on someone. And the problem with that is what you are describing, collateral damage to those that have to read the cat fights.
But then someone posts a thread of concern or suffering and it shifts into a caring community.
I do not judge the forums by the ones that seek to turn it into their own hateful hunting ground but by posters I have known for so long like you. That's my magic, my connection and I would never allow posters behaving badly to interrupt that. So, when I have to read the vitriol and deal with it, I then seek out those that matter to me as a balance.