Starting a new job

[lukin2006]

The only people who win in a divorce are the lawyers. The worst mistake people make when they divorce is dragging it out thinking they will "get" the ex-spouse somehow. Ka-ching! The best thing to do is get rid of the emotions and think about what is a fair deal. Then take it. Don't quibble over a few dollars trying to piss off the ex. Just settle on a reasonable deal as quickly as possible and get out. Start your new life with as little baggage as possible. I know a bunch of people who thought they were going to put the screws to the ex and all they did was run up huge legal bills they had to pay.

In the US, most states have pretty cut and dry divorce laws. The alimony and division of assets is a calculation. I don't necessarily agree with how it is done, but it is what the judges go by. If it boring for them. Of course where there are kids involved it gets a lot more complicated. In that case think of what is best for them. Good luck with the new job and the divorce.

My wife and I fired our lawyers and made a verbal agreement amongst ourselves. And it's holding up well. I trust her more than any lawyer. Seems seems happy with our deal, and we get along very well. So I'll see how it goes.

 

[Runwildboys]

My wife and I fired our lawyers and made a verbal agreement amongst ourselves. And it's holding up well. I trust her more than any lawyer. Seems seems happy with our deal, and we get along very well. So I'll see how it goes.

Well that's a big change from when you first told about the split. Glad to hear civility has improved.

 

[lukin2006]

Lukie Luke, glad you're getting out of that sordid cannabis business and you will get your revenge on them as part of the school's job is to convince the kids not to smoke weed. When those kids find out about your former employer, they will question your sanity.

Don't hate all people, just the arrogant ones celebrating their position on the food ladder because of opposing thumbs and the stupid ones. My wife used to tell me that I shouldn't hate stupid people because they can't help it. I told her that was one of the stupidest things I'd ever heard, stupid people celebrate their stupidity.

I will admit to one thing. My disdain for human beings has multiplied proportionately with the advent of social media. I no longer feel guilty about avoiding people and hope social distancing catches on. However, I do not think measuring it in feet is enough, I prefer we get League out of the vault. That's the distance a person could walk in an hour. Knowing I was an hour from the closest human being would make the time pass so well.

Glad to hear you've got some positive vibe going on and something to look forward to as you've had a tough time of it. As far as that soon to be ex wife.........

Very well said. I have no problem with users of cannabis. But I will say this. I met a few folks at that job who admitted to heavy usage as teenagers. They were not very bright and one was a supervisor... it definitely true that cannabis harms the brain if used too much before 25, but that applies to alcohol and most other substances. So where do we draw the line? I'm a kind of your body, not my business...as long as they stay out of my business.

As for people, the older I get, the less tolerant I am of people. That was some of my problem at the Cannabis company. I did not like most folk, and when I do not like a person...i do no not pretend. You know I don't like and you will also know I do not care...and that bugs people....a lot. Also, people are a game for me. Believe me, this cannabis company will have trouble forgetting me. I left my mark.

I'm with you about people. More and more I have thought about it I have concluded that my disdain for people greatly contributed to the downfall of the marriage. My wife liked people and wanted me to have a more active social life. But that's not me. People wear me out and drain me....

 

[SlammedZero]

I'll give you one that still spins my mind. We had these two couples in our group when we lived in Baton Rouge. We'd all get together and my wife kept telling me something's going on and let me admit something here, I am a miss the obvious guy because I don't pay attention because I don't care enough to. I am that "last to know" guy. Well, she was right and there was an affair going on but that wasn't enough. The other husband and wife decided to do a hookup as payback and fell for each other. Long story short (see I can do that just don't like to), both couples got divorced and married each other and to make it even crazier, they're all great friends, go on vacations together and the families get together for the holidays and both are still married after 35 years. They should make a Hallmark or Lifetime movie about them.

Both had married young, as I did at 20, and that's more infatuation with each other and the idea of marriage and lust than soulmate love. That real love grows or it doesn't, soulmate love develops or it doesn't. I was one of the lucky ones, really lucky ones. When adversity struck, we were the first person each turned to and that builds a bond that can only be broken through death. I was the lucky one in the relationship as I got a lot better than I deserved.

The downside is when you lose them, you don't just lose your mate, you lose your best friend and I can't tell you which is the worst.

Life often provides us with unique situations doesn't it? I have an almost similar story in that I have 2 sets of friends that basically did a wife swap. This was 10-11 years ago. The two that got together afterwards (like in your story, I believe they did it revenge of the first two cheating) are actually still together to this day. Married with a child and as far as I know happy. The other two? Not so much. They only lasted a couple of years. It was definitely weird for our circle of friends for the longest time and something that took forever to get used to. Good news is they are friends today. I won't say the best of friends, lol, but they are civil and I think know it all worked out.

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Anyway, back to the original topic, glad to hear @lukin2006. It's good to see things work out for people and I'm glad your story has begun to right your path.

 

[Montanalo]

He doesn't hate all people, just the ones who suck........so......most people.

I'm a misanthropist myself, and I'm thinking of starting my own misanthropy based church. Anyone is welcome to join, just do it from your own friggin' house.

Misanthropes of the world unite!!... But not together.

 

[Runwildboys]

Misanthropes of the world unite!!... But not together.

Haha! Exactly!

 

[Fredbeard]

He doesn't hate all people, just the ones who suck........so......most people.

I'm a misanthropist myself, and I'm thinking of starting my own misanthropy based church. Anyone is welcome to join, just do it from your own friggin' house.

You could file for tax exemption. Al Bundy did it when he started the church of No ma'am

 

[Fredbeard]

In the last few weeks I have been been preparing to start a new job.

I have been hired as a school board custodian. I retired from a similar position a few years back, then my marriage went to the crapper, which forced me back into the work force.

I have been employed with a cannabis company the last year. The Cannabis company was a crap employer that traeted their employees like chattel. I will be so glad to send them the email that I have found better employment...yee haw.

I can now send them that any day. I got my police clearance today. I am just waiting for a call for orientation and all that jazz.

Its a good job with good pay, benefits, paid sick time, pension and a UNION...a good union. healthcare is not an issue, we have universal health care in Canada...

I'm stoked. I like custodial work. You usually work alone. I HATE people. So this job suits me.

My ex wife hates her job. LOL. How fitting. She tried to leave me destitute. I will win this divorce if its the last thing I do...



This job will take me into retirement or until I am ready to move.

Congrats on your new job , ts. I hope everything works out for you.

 

[Runwildboys]

You could file for tax exemption. Al Bundy did it when he started the church of No ma'am

My brother tried that once and ended up having to pay back the taxes he thought he was exempt from.

 

[lukin2006]

I start on October 13th. They provide a clothing budget and I will be shopping this weekend...

I am just so glad to be away from that Cannabis company. Really glad. Management at that place has issues...like lack of education and experience...My direct supervisor was 33 and looked like he was 60...complete with the raspy voice of a 75-year-old woman who smoked 2 packs a day...and has no people skills whatsoever...unless you call yelling and bullying people skills...

On to a better opportunity.

 

[lukin2006]

I will be starting as a casual custodian at $18.73. Once permanent the pay will be $25/hr...for us single income humans...that's a nice wage.

Benefits and all are exceptional. The one I really like work 10 hours 4 days a week in the summer and get Fridays off...3 day weekends all summer. I'll need a drinking buddy...lol

 

[Montanalo]

Glad to hear it's working out for you

 

[lukin2006]

Glad to hear it's working out for you

Jobs like this are hard to find. We have been devasted over the years with the loss of manufacturing. Most jobs around here are service jobs and greenhouse jobs paying 14-16 an hour with poor benefits for people with few skills.

 

[SumGuy]

In the last few weeks I have been been preparing to start a new job.

I have been hired as a school board custodian. I retired from a similar position a few years back, then my marriage went to the crapper, which forced me back into the work force.

I have been employed with a cannabis company the last year. The Cannabis company was a crap employer that traeted their employees like chattel. I will be so glad to send them the email that I have found better employment...yee haw.

I can now send them that any day. I got my police clearance today. I am just waiting for a call for orientation and all that jazz.

Its a good job with good pay, benefits, paid sick time, pension and a UNION...a good union. healthcare is not an issue, we have universal health care in Canada...

I'm stoked. I like custodial work. You usually work alone. I HATE people. So this job suits me.

My ex wife hates her job. LOL. How fitting. She tried to leave me destitute. I will win this divorce if its the last thing I do...



This job will take me into retirement or until I am ready to move.

Congrats on the new job!
Your old job didn't happen to be at Canopy Growth? I ask because I used to own their stock

I don't know how old you are, but good luck and remember to always be motivated for self-improvement -- if you do that (and stay patient), you will eventually be recognized and rewarded.

 

[Runwildboys]

I will be starting as a casual custodian at $18.73. Once permanent the pay will be $25/hr...for us single income humans...that's a nice wage.

Benefits and all are exceptional. The one I really like work 10 hours 4 days a week in the summer and get Fridays off...3 day weekends all summer. I'll need a drinking buddy...lol

I have no idea what the Canadian exchange rate is, but if you're happy with the pay, that's all that matters.

 

[lukin2006]

I'm not sure what the exchange rate has to do with anything...considering the border will remain closed for the foreseeable future.
The payoff is down the road. Great pension, benefits, and paid sick time...great union...money combined with those other benefits cost the brings my total compensation closer to 50/hour...plus we have universal government health care that cost that is paid through my taxes.

I am looking at the big picture...

 

[lukin2006]

The school board i work for just got closed by the health board. I will likely be unemployed soon and working for the government as a fresh air inspected (unemployment insurance), in Canada, it is often referred to as pogie...merry christmas...

 

[lukin2006]

The last four years have been a struggle and a grind. I'm not sure how I'm still standing..." what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger".

 

[The Fonz]

Good luck man I think you made a better choice leaving this cannabis company.
now next step a new loyal beautiful God fearing wife

 

[Jammer]

The school board i work for just got closed by the health board. I will likely be unemployed soon and working for the government as a fresh air inspected (unemployment insurance), in Canada, it is often referred to as pogie...merry christmas...

Will you get your new job back when the school opens back up?