This. Exactly this. Enough with trying to place the blame for our stupidity on the ref who couldn't believe how stupid it was and probably was standing there in shock like the rest of us.
The refs job is not to stand in shock. I agreed with you earlier - it was a stupid call and too high-risk - doesn't change the fact the officials could have done the job they are paid to do there better, and there's a solution. Use the College rule stop the clock while the chains move, this way we don't have to discriminate against older officials who are not quick enough to stay up with the play because that will be coming if this happens to the wrong team and at the wrong time.
No amount of bad coaching, stupid play calling, boneheaded pre-snap penalties, bad throws by Dak, drops by Cee Dee and Amari, poor pass coverage in our secondary, poor pass rush by our line excuses bad officiating that has a decisive impact on the outcome of the game. It's called football not refereeball for a reason, and that's because football players are supposed to decide games, and too often we see incompetent and inconsistent officiating playing an outsized role in deciding games and I know we saw that again yesterday.
We always say either the quarterback sucks and the defense has to be perfect, because of him or the defense sucks and the quarterback has to be perfect, because of them, but when neither of them suck we still need the refs not to suck, and they suck..
It's not a conspiracy - not against the Cowboys anyway, or even in favor of anyone else though with money never rule anything out. It's. - more of a confederacy of dunces, with maybe subconscious or confirmation bias playing too big a role in how calls are made and who they're made against and when added to a complete lack of competency and consistency week to week, along with lack of clarity from the League addressing the inconsistencies in calls or just plain mistakes.
It's our job to fix the things we can fix on the practice field. But we can't fix incompetent inconsistent or unclear officiating anywhere. Only the NFL can. And as long we just take it quietly, they won't do what needs to be done for the good of the game as a whole, and if that benefits us too all the better.