The following is a post I came across from an acquaintance on FB. It is pretty spot on about the underlying issue and my opinion as well:
Why My Kids Won't Be Shooting Up Schools, and How to Spot Those Who Might....
I'm sick. I'm sick of shootings. I'm sick of children dying. I'm sick of guns being blamed. I'm sick of parents mourning over unnecessary deaths.
For 11 years, I walked alongside teenagers. Tens of thousands of kids from all across this country. So before you say "you don't know what you're talking about," please understand I'm the guy that had anywhere from 50 to over 200 students in his home on any given weekend. I'm the guy that is more involved in the local school system than almost anyone you'll meet. I write this less than 24 hours home from the Special Olympics. So please, pardon the profanity and passion and read.
There is an epidemic in our laps and everyone is refusing to see the blatant, obvious truth.
My son is in sports.
I am focusing on my son because shootings are carried out by boys.
My son is in sports.
Why?
He is in sports to understand the value of others.
He is in sports to understand the value of a team.
He is in sports to LOSE.
Yes, he needs to lose. He does NOT get participation trophies. When he loses, he loses.
Kids are not being allowed to lose. Entire generations of young boys are being coddled and made to believe that the world is a bubble of preference and that their comfort is our responsibility. We are so hell-bent on being politically correct and respecting everyone that, as a result, we are no longer raising men.
A vast majority of school shootings are carried out by teenage boys who are not involved in sports or any extra-curricular activities, but rather isolated fetishes that promote the dopamine hit of violence and control.
This isn't me trying to say video games are bad... but, people... our boys need to lose. Our boys need to understand the rules of the game and respect boundaries.
I want you to look closely in the picture... What is it that catches your eye?
What is the CATALYST for knowing that my son will not be one you catch on the news for violence?
Are you seeing it?
It's me.
I'M A PRESENT FATHER.
Dads, it is beyond time to STEP UP.
The common denominator of all these kids that are shooting up schools?
It's all over their facebooks. Weird stuff: clothing, guns, warnings....
Their classmates know they had issues. Heck, some even told their parents. Some call the school. Nothing is done.
And the common denominator?
The parents had "no idea."
The fathers are typically absent.
Here is my promise to you, Stetson.
I will not be up your arse.
You are going to live your life, make your mistakes, take your lumps, and become an AMAZING MAN OF INTEGRITY.
But listen... While I won't be up your arse,
You better believe I'm gonna be knee deep in your (business).
I'm committed to being your FATHER.
That's not your friend.
That's not your punching bag.
That's not a provider that you never see.....
I am going to be PRESENT, ALWAYS.
I am going to PRESIDE over you and teach you how to become the MAN you're called to be.
I am not going to leave you to yourself to "find your own version of yourself and what being a 'man' means to you..."
You deserve BETTER... every boy does.
I will TEACH you how to lose and learn.
I will TEACH you how to dream and work.
I will TEACH you how to add value and make money.
I will TEACH you how to treat a woman.
I will TEACH you what a gun is and what it's for.
I will TEACH you what it is to be a PRESENT FATHER.
I will TEACH you what it is to be a MAN.
And you, son, will be the PROTECTOR of yourself, your family, and your community....
Because you will know that is who we, as MEN, are called to be.
Basically, we are letting culture raise our children.