I can't hug my dad

[PJTHEDOORS]

Love the words of an American Poet.

His sly humor too.
https://inspirationfeed.com/jim-morrison-quotes/

 

[G2]

My dad was raised the same, but times were different. Military family. He got sick with cancer and then softened up and I was lucky to have a bunch of time to be with him. It was great but it could have been sooner had he not been so stubborn. So not to disappoint toward the end, just when I thought he would soften, jokingly he tapped the side of my face "Goodfellas" style and said: "I can still kick your ars." lol. Never lost his humor.

 

[G2]

Where is he? I'll hug 'em

 

[Montanalo]

I was raised to be tough and not show emotion. My dad is 85....he's 6'3" and 220lbs. I have seen him every day since March and he is the main reason I retired from coaching. I love him more than anything, but I cannot bring myself to tell him that or even hug him. Is that weird?

I suspect that if he was not around, you would really regret not giving him a big, ole' bear hug.

 

[Montanalo]

Just don't do it from behind, if you ever wanna see that look again.

And, it is pithy words of wisdom like this that keeps me coming back to this site.

 

[Runwildboys]

And, it is pithy words of wisdom like this that keeps me coming back to this site.

 

[bark]

I was raised to be tough and not show emotion. My dad is 85....he's 6'3" and 220lbs. I have seen him every day since March and he is the main reason I retired from coaching. I love him more than anything, but I cannot bring myself to tell him that or even hug him. Is that weird?

I never heard my dad say I love you son yet there was never a day in my life that I didn’t know that he did. Actions are much more important than the words people speak.
say it if you feel it but I guarantee you that he respects the man you are and knows you love him.
Today’s generation and yesterday’s are polar opposite

 

[HungryLion]

I can understand where you’re coming from. My dad isn’t like this. But my grandfather certainly is.

Actually the only time my grandfather has said “I love you” to me that I can remember was in our first phone conversation after my grandmother passed away. When he was obviously very emotional.

Although he clearly loves me but just shows it in his way.


I’m sure your father is very similar.



I think you should just go for it man. Just go for it. You never know when the chance won’t be there anymore. It sounds like it’s something you think about. Don’t be thinking about this one day when he is no longer around to try.

 

[roughneck266]

I would give anything to be able to hug my dad, and tell him I love him again. Don't let something as silly as pride or convention stop you now, because it won't be long before it isn't an option anymore.

 

[Runwildboys]

My father left us when I was 6 years old. Left my mother with 5 kids, a new mortgage on an old house, no job, no high school diploma. He didn't send money, rarely got in touch with us, and the first time I saw him after he left was 5 years later, then sporadically after that; 7 years, 5 years, 10 years, etc. He died about 15 or 20 years ago, and I never really gave a damn about him from the time I was an adult..........but I'm still glad I hugged him when I did see him. I don't know why, I guess maybe I figure if I hadn't, I'd still be wondering if it would've made a difference.

 

[CouchCoach]

Coach, if this is a regret now, fix it now. Don't allow a possible future regret live another minute.

The three worst words to begin any sentence with are "wish I had".

The lesson, learned too late for me, was the purpose of living and maxing the now is to eliminate as many regrets as you can in the future.

Doesn't matter whether he feels it's weird and fathers only hug daughters, the hug is for you and might just end up being for him as well.

Do not hesitate, the fewer regrets taken forward the easier the mind rests. Leave nothing unsaid or undone and that hug might be more important to your Dad than you know. It is important to you as you've shown.

 

[Runwildboys]

Let me just sum up everyone's posts, Ranching.........Don't be a quitter!

 

[Vtwin]

It takes real balls to step outside the reality of normal and do something you truly believe to be the right thing to do.

In my way of thinking this might just be the sort of thing your dad was preparing you to do. Push through the obstacles and do what you think is right. Might just make him proud.

 

[Ranching]

I told him I love him on Facebook and he said, I love you too, son.....sounds cheezy, but it meant a lot. I picked him up for breakfast this morning and neither one of us mentioned it....lol! I love my dad!

 

[Runwildboys]

I told him I love him on Facebook and he said, I love you too, son.....sounds cheezy, but it meant a lot. I picked him up for breakfast this morning and neither one of us mentioned it....lol! I love my dad!

That's awesome, brother.

 

[Montanalo]

I told him I love him on Facebook and he said, I love you too, son.....sounds cheezy, but it meant a lot. I picked him up for breakfast this morning and neither one of us mentioned it....lol! I love my dad!

I would hope, at the very least, you gave him a manly nod of the head with a very clear, " 'sup" when you picked him up

 

[CouchCoach]

I told him I love him on Facebook and he said, I love you too, son.....sounds cheezy, but it meant a lot. I picked him up for breakfast this morning and neither one of us mentioned it....lol! I love my dad!

WAIT A MINUITE!!!!!!!! You two can't hug and hang out on Facebook?????????

 

[Ranching]

I would hope, at the very least, you gave him a manly nod of the head with a very clear, " 'sup" when you picked him up

We took a shot of tequila at 7am!!! That's gotta count for something!! Salud!

 

[Ranching]

WAIT A MINUITE!!!!!!!! You two can't hug and hang out on Facebook?????????

My dad is the greatest man I know. He came from Mexico in 1956. Sixth grade education, worked his butt off and made a great name for himself and a small fortune. He and my mom raised four boys....3 PHDs, 4 Masters and 4 bachelor's degree among us. My oldest brother has written 9 books, speaks 7: languages and works at the Vatican with Pope Francis, my other two brother's are educators and administrators and I was a HC/AD and have been very successful in real estate. We've all done everything we can to make our parents proud....he's never told us that he is, but we all know that he is very proud. He tells everyone else, but not us. Lol!!!!

 

[HungryLion]

It takes real balls to step outside the reality of normal and do something you truly believe to be the right thing to do.

In my way of thinking this might just be the sort of thing your dad was preparing you to do. Push through the obstacles and do what you think is right. Might just make him proud.

I like this perspective