CouchCoach
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Love you guys as well and I am keeping to myself today and plan on probably getting drunk on the patio, playing the wrong songs, smoking cigars and reflecting. That probably getting drunk was about the location, not the intent. I may actually realize a state of inebriation when I come in to fix other libations. So the location doesn't really matter.Good SATURDAY morning Pops and friends. I thought it was avoiding me, but it's finally here.
I know you have family close by, but spend time alone. You can't see us but know we're real by our buffoonery. I take all of you along with me each day as friends and interweb family. We throw a virtual comforting arm around each other when one is going through a rough time, but we try to give of our hearts to the one in pain. If you could see in the spirit, your feet are off the ground as we lift you up in our thoughts and prayers. We are for you and as Runny said, we love you.
I can be an emotional drunk and I figure to be emotional anyway so why not get drunk and have a fall back excuse? I plan on slurring my thoughts.
Runny is right, I should have used this forum, especially the old one, more for personal use and shared my feelings with people I've grown to love through their thoughts and words. I denied them the pleasure of shoring me up, one of our purposes for being and being here.
Absolutely impossible to explain to someone else how important a site like this can be unless they experience it themselves. I've probably already told you this but my wife was the one that sent me back to the forum when I was in my darkest times. Unbeknownst to me, she'd sit in the family room sometimes with a book and listen to me typing and laughing and be entertained. A couple of times she sat in beside me. She didn't get the forum with a bunch of people talking about the same thing over and over but she did understand why I was there. It was cathartic and a venue for making myself laugh.
I cannot explain it. I know I am a funny guy, and funny peculiar as well. But I've always been funny, I was born with it. But I have this strange ability to make myself laugh and I can do it writing better than even thinking it. I told the posters at the old site I was leaving but didn't tell them why. My Dad was going through hell and mixed up in all of that was a relationship I wished we'd always had. I watched him just slowly fade away and I descended into the dark. After a while my wife had the talk. I was being consumed and I had to fight for myself and she thought the best way would be to get back on DC.com and make myself laugh again. I was surprised, no therapy, no minister, a sports web site. Well, she was right again.
Then, 16 months later, to the day after I lost my Dad, she was gone. After the mental paralysis wore off, I decided to take her advice and came back only it didn't work this time. I was shutting down and shutting everyone out and I still cannot account for my thoughts and time for a lot of that. I lived a robotic routine life, one foot in front of the other, I left the forum again, only this time I told them why and I did get some PM's of concern and asking me to stay and I appreciated that but the main reason I joined up in the first place wasn't to talk football or the Cowboys, it was to have fun and be goofy. I wasn't having either anymore and didn't know if I ever would again. I was almost going under in the self pity pool.
Then one day, I got the message to come back only it was a hidden message, I didn't realize it until I came back. Inside of an hour, I was back. Making bad jokes, being silly and making myself laugh. I was having what I thought might be lost forever, fun. Even had a poster that absolutely loathed me take his usual shot at me and I was right back in the saddle.
As special as the old forum was, it didn't have this thread. This thread is my precious and sharing with you guys is a special part of my life. I feel a special kinship to the namesake of this thread whom I never encountered. I come here everyday to try and make you and myself laugh but deeper than that, this is where I feel. I allow myself to open up and not shut down because there is no judgment, only acceptance. I do not think any of you will know just how special to are to me.