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Sorry to hear that man. I'll echo what others have said and suggest that you fight it with all you got.Cancer. Still haven't told anyone in my family. I don't think I'll seek treatment. I've done everything I want to accomplish, seen every part of the world I care to see, and then some. I think I'm done. I'm not looking for well wishes so keep them to yourselves, as well as your prayers. I'm not looking for sympathy. Just seeing if actually writing it down will wake me up from my shock.
I recommend we take this conversation to the other forum we frequent. I still have my PM privilege there.@JoeKing
Feel free to send me a PM man anytime, for some reason I can’t send you one. You know my wife is in medicine if you have any questions or advice on what to expect treatment wise. I(we) are here for ya buddy 24/7 if need be
Joe, I don't know anything about you or your condition, but there are alternative treatments out there that don't include chemo or radiation. Give yourself some time to recover from the shock of the diagnosis and allow the strength of your faith, family and friends lift you to a better place. Peace to you, Brother. We are here for you.
This was 25 years ago, and Im sure medicine has advanced. .
Joe, I don't know how to respond to this, especially the bold. So, I am going to ignore that request and I hope after the shock wears off, you can look at your life from the outside in. I mean through your family's eyes.Cancer. Still haven't told anyone in my family. I don't think I'll seek treatment. I've done everything I want to accomplish, seen every part of the world I care to see, and then some. I think I'm done. I'm not looking for well wishes so keep them to yourselves, as well as your prayers. I'm not looking for sympathy. Just seeing if actually writing it down will wake me up from my shock.
You need to be really careful about interpreting things like average life expectancy for X cancer, because that doesn't always mean what it sounds like it means. If you can get past this guy's writing style, he explains why:
https://journalofethics.ama-assn.org/article/median-isnt-message/2013-01
He was diagnosed with incurable cancer and given an 8 month prognosis in 1982. He died in 2002. From a lung cancer unrelated to his original terminal cancer diagnosis. He benefited from better cancer treatments, but also from realizing that even back then a lot of people lived way beyond the average just fine.
It hasn't just advanced, it's basically not even the same thing anymore. They're re-writing DNA and stuff. It's like comparing coal power to nuclear fusion.
On the flipside, doctors have gotten way smarter about not even trying mega aggressive treatment when there really is no hope. They're much more likely to give you medical weed and painkillers and let you chill out than do things that are 99% likely to kill you and 1% likely to kill the cancer first.
Joe, I don't know how to respond to this, especially the bold. So, I am going to ignore that request and I hope after the shock wears off, you can look at your life from the outside in. I mean through your family's eyes.
I lost my wife to that monster coming up on 9 years in February and while I will never be over or past that, one thing I know for certain. She fought with every bit of courage and fortitude she could muster. She fought to stay with us, her family and friends, because she knew how important she was to us. When she went into Comfort Care with Hospice, which is administered morphine and the end, she stayed alive a full 48 hours and her attendant stood there at the end of the bed and shook he head and said "what a strong heart" and all I could murmur was "you have no idea".
Joe, strong heart. I know this is a lot to handle, and it doesn't help with this diagnosis during this time of year, but I've been making a suggestion for years, both at the old forum and now here that I am going to alter for you. I ask posters to just take one moment and look at every person in that room on Thanksgiving and think of life with them not in it. I am asking you to think of them with you not in their lives. That you chose not to fight to be with them.
When my family gathers, there is a moment that someone will bring up just how hard my wife fought the monster and I will look at the faces and see the smiles because they know what I know, that's how much she loved us.
Whatever you decide, let us know and let us know how we can support you because that's the magic here. It's not just about a football team that frustrates us, it's about the camaraderie that comforts us. So, to hell with your request, the well wishes are coming but I will start with the wish that you want to get well.
Just life's lessons and the harder they are to learn, the more need for sharing.That was beautiful. Thank you for your story.
Brother, I do not know how you feel but I know how that diagnosis feels. I can still recall with minute detail when we were told this was stage 4 terminal but treatable. It was a death senetence but she chose to fight that with every ounce of determination she could bring forth. And when it got worse, she fought harder.I sincerely appreciate everyone's advice and encouragement to not give up.
It was a death senetence but she chose to fight that with every ounce of determination she could bring forth. And when it got worse, she fought harder.
That would mean a great deal to me. Thank you so very much. Just know I'm a Baptist but a believer none the less. Rome is a beautiful city and the Vatican even doubly so. I just wish I could have visited the catacombs.@JoeKing . I'm leaving for Rome on Sunday, i will say a few prayers for you from some of the holy sites around the city that i will be visiting.
So glad to hear Joe.That would mean a great deal to me. Thank you so very much. Just know I'm a Baptist but a believer none the less. Rome is a beautiful city and the Vatican even doubly so. I just wish I could have visited the catacombs.
That would mean a great deal to me. Thank you so very much. Just know I'm a Baptist but a believer none the less. Rome is a beautiful city and the Vatican even doubly so. I just wish I could have visited the catacombs.