My Wife Has a Phone Stalker... Advice Appreciated

[Hoofbite]

Well if this person gets the new number its someone she knows dishing it out. Unfortunately there isnt much else u can do with a blocked number. Ive had that before. I let it ride out a week then it stopped. Cops wont do anything unless there is messages and threats.

I think you underestimate how committed and resourceful some of these loons are.

I doubt his wife was just handing her number out to random strangers in the past. That means it is either someone she knows or it's someone who has the ability to access her number.

Getting a new number would change what exactly?

If the person is calling that many times per day, getting a new number would be my last resort. Finding out who that person is would be my main priority.

20 to 30 calls per day is not a random dialing where someone finally hit jackpot and came across the type of person they were looking for.

That's a psychotic obsession.

I would exhaust every available possible option before changing the number and ignoring it.

Call me paranoid if you like but that type of harassment is worth the effort required to have peace of mind.

 

[Cowboy Brian]

iPhones don't support blocking numbers. Blackberries and Androids do. If the threat has been going on for an extended period of time get the police involved. Better safe than sorry, you never know what freaks are lurking out there.

It could just be some neighborhood kids pulling a prank, when I was about 5 years old one of my neighbors who was around my age called my other neighbor who was about 60 endlessly for 3 days and just breathed in the phone thinking it was the funniest thing in the world, eventually they called the cops and the kid got a talking to from the police not to harass people - that there is a difference between a joke and harassment.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

One thing I did not think about.

If your wife has facebook or facebook mobile on her cell phone you might want to read this as she may have her cell number on facebook without realizing it.

http://www.patrickomalley.com/facebook-mobile-warning-cell-phone-number-privacy.html

 

[cowboy_ron]

One thing I did not think about.

If your wife has facebook or facebook mobile on her cell phone you might want to read this as she may have her cell number on facebook without realizing it.

http://www.patrickomalley.com/facebook-mobile-warning-cell-phone-number-privacy.html

Good point...I went through identity theft hell a couple of years ago because of facebook....wouldn't go near it now

 

[Hostile]

One thing I did not think about.

If your wife has facebook or facebook mobile on her cell phone you might want to read this as she may have her cell number on facebook without realizing it.

http://www.patrickomalley.com/facebook-mobile-warning-cell-phone-number-privacy.html

I just checked and hers is not there. Thank you for this info though.

So it is really early here and I have been up for about 45 minutes, because...you guessed it...he called. The 2nd call I answered the phone.

"This is Officer Michaels of the Tucson Police, how may I help you sir?"

Not a sound on the line and a long pause on his end. To which I said.

"Think as long as you like, it helps us trace your call."

Hang up. Hasn't called back.

If he does, we'll be getting that trapcall service and I will press charges.


For the record, I do believe this is someone who does not know her. I believe he called random numbers until he got a female voice.

 

[casmith07]

Brilliant. I'd love to see the size of the brick that hit his underpants when you said that.

 

[wittenacious]

So it is really early here and I have been up for about 45 minutes, because...you guessed it...he called. The 2nd call I answered the phone.

"This is Officer Michaels of the Tucson Police, how may I help you sir?"

Not a sound on the line and a long pause on his end. To which I said.

"Think as long as you like, it helps us trace your call."

Hang up. Hasn't called back.

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If he does, we'll be getting that trapcall service and I will press charges.

Nicely done. If he doesn't stop, hope you nab the bastid.

 

[The30YardSlant]

As someone with a little personal experience with this, I wouldn't change her number. Odds are it's some stupid teenager or random creep who has no idea who he's calling and just dialing the same number for kicks. However, on the off chance it isn't then the person likely knows your wife and possibly where she lives, and changing her number might be what causes him to go even further with this. Definitely do everything in your power to figure out where the calls are coming from and who is making them.

My mother went through this and the guy making the calls was a former coworker with psychological issues. My parents had him arrested after he showed up at their house one day after weeks of calling from pay phones and got a restraining order.

 

[KJJ]

As someone with a little personal experience with this, I wouldn't change her number. Odds are it's some stupid teenager or random creep who has no idea who he's calling and just dialing the same number for kicks. However, on the off chance it isn't then the person likely knows your wife and possibly where she lives, and changing her number might be what causes him to go even further with this. Definitely do everything in your power to figure out where the calls are coming from and who is making them.

My mother went through this and the guy making the calls was a former coworker with psychological issues. My parents had him arrested after he showed up at their house one day after weeks of calling from pay phones and got a restraining order.

Changing your number can narrow it down to who you're dealing with. If it's just some random idiot changing your number will eliminate them. If you change your number and they call back you're dealing with real crackpot within your inner-circle or possibly someone who works for your cell provider and is able to access your information.

 

[D29Murray]

...could you at the very least get a new number (unlisted) for your wife?

Someway you need to stop this situation from escalating. For yourself and your wife.

While you and your wife shouldn't be tormented by this, I don't think this suggestion is wise either.

No disrespect to anyone who suggested this... but you have to assume this is worse than it is.

If he/she knows who you are and where you live, you will never have any future warnings because you will have passed this number on to someone else.

You might not get anymore calls, sure, but then you don't know if he/she's still involved in trying to contact you (only the number doesn't belong to you).

What's worse, what if the phone number is given to some other person, and he/she takes on to doing this to the NEXT person to own the number?

Consider an alarm system, if you don't already have one. Do what the others have said, even if it takes multiple tries: Contact the police about a stalker, hire a private investigator.

I would try the suggestion from earlier, as well, that lets you forward the number to a toll free number to see if the unblocking actually works. If so, keep a copy of your own "trail" on how you purchased the account, and show the call history, etc...

Whatever you do, DO NOT antagonize the caller.

 

[5Stars]

As an antidote to Hostile's predicament because that is some serious stuff, there is this...

RING - RING - RING

Wife: Hello? .... What? ... Oh? You would do that?

Husband: Who's on the phone? ... Who is it? ...

Wife to husband: Sheesshhh a minute! ... (back on phone call) Oh really, now? (little giggle)...you would really do that with me?

Husband: Who are you talking to? ... (silence) .... Who is it?!

Wife to husband: (covers the mouthpiece of the phone) ...HUSH A MINUTE! People pay $3.95 a minute for calls like this!

Husband: WTH!

 

[ethiostar]

I'm not sure if it'll work but I found this suggestion online

http://applefanatic.org/iphone/guy-keeps-calling-with-blocked-caller-t26489.html


Hope this helps

Did you try this by any chance?

 

[sacase]

Any more issues Hos? I don't know why the police are saying they can't trace it. Its just a simple pen register. know any FBI guys? They can send a NSL to the phone company and get a pin register pretty easy. They just need an open case number for it.

 

[Hostile]

Looks like my ruse worked. He has not called back.

Oh, and I think it is obvious it was not someone we know or he would know my voice. I did not try to disguise it at all.

 

[DOUBLE WING]

The only thing I would be concerned about is if a week passes and he realizes nothing is going to happen, he starts calling again.

 

[rynochop]

The only thing I would be concerned about is if a week passes and he realizes nothing is going to happen, he starts calling again.

Just simply don't answer his call. A day or two of that, he.ll go away.

Also, why doesn't this person text as well, that seems weird.

 

[Dallas]

Yeah I stopped calling.


Doesn't mean I am done though. ---->

 

[Hostile]

Yeah I stopped calling.


Doesn't mean I am done though. ---->

She's not a red head you know.

 

[Dallas]

She's not a red head you know.

:laugh2: touche'

 

[jobberone]

I'm happy things are going better.