I have found through the workplace that the N word is almost a term of endearment in urban black communities.
Many times my associates have used the term amongst themselves and I have even been called the N word by my black friends. Uncomfortable with that, I have been quick to ask them to halt using the term for the reasons many have stated before.... specifically that many people have died for the cause of equal rights and to end racism, and I think that word has been made a joke of in modern pop culture.
The response I got from black friends- almost EVERYONE of them.... " it's just a word. you're my ****. If you're my ***** then I'm your *****. Whether or not you say that to me, it's ok. It's Just a word- relax."
The point is that your actions speak to your character and one's actions will not always toe the line of politically correct perfection. What he was telling me is that it's ok to screw up because we know what you're about. Even though I would never make that mistake because that word is not one to be used toward an african-american person IMO as a caucasian.
The point is- words cannot hurt people. It's the actions behind words that hurt people. It's the prevalence of people that don't open their hearts to others that hurt people. Every culture has its idiosyncratic histories. White's, blacks, asians, native-americans, arabs, Indians, etc. If you cannot laugh and enjoy these of your own culture, how can you ever relate to another's? It is important the struggle of one's culture never be forgotten- but to move forward as a society means we have to forgive. Ourselves. Others. Everyone.
And have the ability to embrace all walks of life as our friends.
Hate can never be conquered without love and laughter.
I think that's Marty B's point. I doubt very highly has a bone of racism in his body. What he's telling us is that it's ok that he's black and it's ok if you think he's funny. If you don't, that might speak more to your heart than to his. He's leaving his on video for all to enjoy. He's a gifted young man and a professional football player with a jubilant soul and he wants to be our friend. What's racist about that?