Let me ask if you understand this. A child spills his drink in my brand new car, ruining the carpet. I smack the kid leaving a mark but he feels its his fault because he spilled the drink, would that bother you? Is something determined as being right or wrong based upon only how the victim perceives it?
If you don't like that analogy, what if I beat my wife because she upset me? She doesn't tell anyone or defend herself because she thinks she deserves it and that its ok for me to hit her. Is what I did right or wrong based only on her reaction?
In either case, is your employer going to suspend you for as long as a year?
Yes, the concept of right or wrong is indeed arbitrary. In many cases morality depended on the times, the relationship between the two and even the economic status of the perceived offender.
However, the NFL determines "bad" as being detrimental to the NFL.
Translation: Will the actions potentialy decrease revenue?
The American justice system determines bad as illegal. If you slam a 6 pack of beer and half a bottle of Jack in your backyard it is good. If you smoke a marijuana joint in your backyard then it is bad.
If you spank a woman because she wanted you to, she derives sexual pleasure from it, is that bad? Is that assault?
We are right to question the wisdom of such behaviour but should he be punished? Should he be prevented from participating in his livlihood?
In the end, was his actions detrimental to the league....or did it provide additional publicity, added fuel to the Cowboy haters that love to hate so much they dont miss a Cowboy game? LOL, does anyone believe they dont exist?