How do you know he wasn't taking trips to Mexico, Canada, or somewhere across the country? Maybe he and Deanna don't have reporters camped out looking for just the right picture, and they've actually travelled a lot. Perhaps having children means that they don't travel much. Same with her cancer.
It doesn't matter to me that Tony took a trip. So did other teammates and they don't even get mentioned in the scrutiny because they were with their wives not their celeb girlfriends, are not the QB, or some other lame excuse. Hell, Tom Brady went to New York to knock boots with Giselle Bundchen and the media said little and the fans less than that.
The double standard about Mexico is big in my mind with Tony's frame of mind. He is still having fun on the field. He's not joking with reporters any more and he should be. Jumping in your golf cart and saying this interview is over when they ask you about singing at Wrigley isn't taking the stress off of him. He's letting it get to him and he shouldn't. Early on he could laugh off anything that the media brought up. Lately he hasn't been and he's so uptight about it that the team lectures a rookie about a totally harmless comment.