Sadly I do understand life with a crazy baby's moma, and even showing her instability and the fact she signed off the rights to her second born because she was a caught adultress in VA state law, she still won custody of my daughter because I could not afford decent legal console back then. While my daughter was 16 and had a good say in the matter, I had zero chance winning a custody battle for a child I could not know do to her moving every year or so with a different man. I am still paying insane child support for a child I have seen 6 times before 3 years old and once since she came of age. My biggest regret is that the money goes to the parent, a known cheater time and time again while my daughter got nothing but the Govt assistance she got when I was 9 states away..... Being nailed with 16 years of interest on a child that was not confirmed to be mine till she was 16 yrs old was killer..... Luckily I have knocked out $48,000 of the $71,000 the judge through on me that day. Over $16,000 of that is interest..... While some states are more about what is best for the child, there are other states that feel a child is best with their mother, and as long as the mother can collect child support, she can provide regardless......
Seeing he got custody speaks volumes..... If only the judge in VA saw I had sole custody of my son which was months younger could have played a part..... Sadly I got a Public Offender not a Public Defender when I went to court....