I feel like a fool because of the last year. I was willing to cross an Ocean for her and she was even willing to leap a puddle. Trust me, I never wavered in my believe that she loved me, nor did I ever stop loving her. Her actions these past few months are more indicative of hate than love.
Again, no reason to feel like a fool. A couple should try to work it out, you can at least rest easy that you tried, takes two to make any relationship work.
Sometimes it just takes a person not involved with the divorce to make one or both parties realize it's just not worth it.
As an insurance adjuster years ago I was hired by a lawyer dealing with a divorcing couple. They were arguing over the value of certain items so I was hired to do an objective valuation of the items. One of them was an old cattle trailer that the man said was worth a couple of thousand dollars, whereas she said it was worth much much more and if he got to keep it, that meant he got more money in the setttlement. Well I looked at it, it had rotted boards in the bed, rust all over, dented fenders, doors that didn't latch properly, etc. I told her it was probably only worth $2,000 - $2,500 and she said okay, but it was "just one item".
I asked her if the marriage was truly over, no chance to reconcile and she said yes, so I asked her, then quit worrying over a few dollars, don't you want the process to be over? Why argue and get upset over that, isn't it better to compromise and move on?
She didn't answer, but when I turned in the paperwork later to the lawyer, he asked me what I said to the people because they were all of a sudden much more amiable and the settlement was much improved. I told him what I had said and he said, well it worked, thanks.
Don't agonize over things, look ahead to the future, you can't change the past....
