CowboyStar88
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Separated/Divorce
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CowboyStar88
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I think everyone has pretty much nailed this thread especially (@Trouty 
). I was married for 8 years got divorced 3 years ago. I loved her but it became a struggle with her battling her demons. When it finally ended I felt a weight had lifted off my shoulders, and I began to enjoy life. About 6 months later I ran into an old acquaintance and her and I ended up dating and moving in together. She wasn’t over her past and decided to move on. A year later she came back into my life and it had been up and down, and the other day she finally said she needed to let me go. So here I am blindsided my friend.
I haven’t felt like this in I can’t tell you how long, but I have found music to be a great source of comfort along with my dogs and work sadly. Keep your chin up.
). I was married for 8 years got divorced 3 years ago. I loved her but it became a struggle with her battling her demons. When it finally ended I felt a weight had lifted off my shoulders, and I began to enjoy life. About 6 months later I ran into an old acquaintance and her and I ended up dating and moving in together. She wasn’t over her past and decided to move on. A year later she came back into my life and it had been up and down, and the other day she finally said she needed to let me go. So here I am blindsided my friend.I haven’t felt like this in I can’t tell you how long, but I have found music to be a great source of comfort along with my dogs and work sadly. Keep your chin up.
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IT'S OLDER THAN DIRT,TOO J
*I've a 'tender heart' & am not deviod of empathy for our fellow forum friend,,,but yer' being a mite melodramatic in the level of expression in projecting yours don'cha think?
I believe it was Will Rogers once said : "be careful of the problems you share with others,as half of 'em couldn't care & the other half are glad to hear you got 'em"
We all knew @lukin2006's situation ,he's merely telling us( his football fan family) that the marriage counseling was a waste of time,,,I can flat out tell you this much my friend, once that woman yards it off& out the front door,there's a reason and seldom, if EVER are they worth the angst, turmoil & constant exerted effort required in keeping them if they do return,,,look pal,, the sooner you understand that lock on the front door of the house is there to keep people out & not locked inside,,,is the sooner you ,yourself can make gainful strides in yer' mental wellbeing
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Take your time to process and don't make any rash decisions. Don't rush into something because you're afraid of spending time alone. Don't be afraid to give someone a chance because you're afraid of the same thing happening. Right now, just focus on recovering and rediscovering yourself. The situation sucks, but you can get through this.
I've had friends rush to get into a relationship after a failed one because they hate being alone. It's always ended up badly.
I've had friends who took time to recover and then were terrified to give someone else a chance....and were miserable for years alone.
It can be tough to figure everything out, but it takes two to make a relationship work. If one stops and the other is doing all of the work, that's a terrible burden on the one trying. You may find that you have more energy soon.
Just keep in mind that everything that happened before wasn't a mistake. It helped shape who you are now. You're on a journey to find out who you'll be in the future. Embrace that.
I've had friends rush to get into a relationship after a failed one because they hate being alone. It's always ended up badly.
I've had friends who took time to recover and then were terrified to give someone else a chance....and were miserable for years alone.
It can be tough to figure everything out, but it takes two to make a relationship work. If one stops and the other is doing all of the work, that's a terrible burden on the one trying. You may find that you have more energy soon.
Just keep in mind that everything that happened before wasn't a mistake. It helped shape who you are now. You're on a journey to find out who you'll be in the future. Embrace that.
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In this case Melon has to find another one.That one has been informed about your interest in her.
(Note: you have to go to a karaoke bar at least once a week and also know how to do the macarena dance )
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Lol
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Never mind then.
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It was a joke Trouty.
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@lukin2006 Sorry to hear man.
My parents have gone through a similar thing, without the divorce being finalized.
Father still had feelings, mom didn't. Tough on everyone.
@Trouty I get your point, especially with lukin being devastated over this but I don't feel anyone posted in mean spirits to brush off his sadness/despair. I saw almost everything in a funny manner to hopefully get his mind in a better place, even if only temporary. Anywho, don't want to drag this topic off, but just give my 2cents.
My parents have gone through a similar thing, without the divorce being finalized.
Father still had feelings, mom didn't. Tough on everyone.
@Trouty I get your point, especially with lukin being devastated over this but I don't feel anyone posted in mean spirits to brush off his sadness/despair. I saw almost everything in a funny manner to hopefully get his mind in a better place, even if only temporary. Anywho, don't want to drag this topic off, but just give my 2cents.
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Hey, Yesterday it was an Amish girl. What's next...I have never been married myself so it would be hard for me to feel what u are feeling but i would say No worries brother you have your life ahead of you just plan it differently.
Get yourself a sweet Filipina and you will feel like a king again.They are low maintenance.I know few people who did and they are having a great time.
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Wow Brother, you seem to be in a bad mood today, and jumping down everyone's throats for nothing but jocularity.
I'm not all too familiar with your posting, but from what I've seen, this seems uncharacteristic.
Everything okay?
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It was a bad night, and I'm very sorry to Lukin and this thread. I'm so sorry for the way I was posting last night to everyone in this thread. It's not an excuse, but I just had wisdom teeth surgery and was hopped up on too many pain pills and posting a fool.
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You've been so cool for so long, I don't think anyone will hold it against you.
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We want them all lol
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i'm so sorry for how i posted at you. i wish i could delete it. i wish i could delete everything i posted last night.
nearly everyone in this thread i know and like, and i was an arse to some of the best people here, including yourself, just so i could be loud and sound off. it isn't fair to Lukin, and it isn't fair to my friends and fellow posters in here.
i absolutely know you're a good, kind-hearted person, and i took an innocuous joke too far. way, way too far. please forgive me, please accept my apology, Mike
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