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[Runwildboys]

I'm not sure which one of you has been exposed, but here it is for everyone else to see. Check out the eyes after that first taste.

Looks like the monster in Young Frankenstein, when.....well, you know.

 

[LeonDixson]

Morning, Pops and all Y'all. I'm happy with the progress we're making. The A/C was installed yesterday and it got really cold really fast in here when the guy turned it on to test it. It's cool enough here that we don't need to run it right now, but we will have it when we need it. Coach, like I said, it's a minor annoyance. Having more time to sit on my balcony watching the waves roll in is not a bad thing.

Y'all have a good day.

 

[GrammaJan]

I'm not sure which one of you has been exposed, but here it is for everyone else to see. Check out the eyes after that first taste.

That's me and cheesecake

 

[GrammaJan]

Morning Pops and everyone.

Winding up the week in property fashion with a chiro appointment after work. Ahhh, the single life.

I admitted to myself yesterday that what I thought wasn't a personal dilemma, was in fact, a dilemma. It's easy to talk about these things on this site because technically none of you knows me, and should it happen that I am embarrassed about something I know I can simply disappear from the forum, but I also know that any elbowing, ribbing, taunting or other form of teasing is meant in fun. That being said, what I've admitted to myself, after well over a year of denial, is that I am crushing on someone and don't know what to do about it. So junior high, I know. He's not married but what I don't know is how old he is OORRRR if he "swings from the right trees", if you know what I mean. It's someone I know through work and that I gladly get to interact with at least once a week. The other day I was at the County administration building (where he works) taking care of some office business. Apparently he saw I was there and came from his office across the way to pick on me. I've been out of this game long enough that I don't know what to make of all this so I'm calling on my pals on this site to try to pick this thing apart. Maybe he's not "straight" and just playing because (I think) we're "friends"... I don't know.

Alright, take your shots but some serious guidance on how to figure this out would be nice too.

In the meantime I think I need to get through one more day at the office so I can get into my weekend and another round of light packing.

More snow here yesterday and last night so over the past couple days we've had about 4-6 inches. Perfect. Beautiful.

Have a great day all.

Be blessed and have a great weekend.

 

[GrammaJan]

Morning Pops and everyone.

Winding up the week in property fashion with a chiro appointment after work. Ahhh, the single life.

I admitted to myself yesterday that what I thought wasn't a personal dilemma, was in fact, a dilemma. It's easy to talk about these things on this site because technically none of you knows me, and should it happen that I am embarrassed about something I know I can simply disappear from the forum, but I also know that any elbowing, ribbing, taunting or other form of teasing is meant in fun. That being said, what I've admitted to myself, after well over a year of denial, is that I am crushing on someone and don't know what to do about it. So junior high, I know. He's not married but what I don't know is how old he is OORRRR if he "swings from the right trees", if you know what I mean. It's someone I know through work and that I gladly get to interact with at least once a week. The other day I was at the County administration building (where he works) taking care of some office business. Apparently he saw I was there and came from his office across the way to pick on me. I've been out of this game long enough that I don't know what to make of all this so I'm calling on my pals on this site to try to pick this thing apart. Maybe he's not "straight" and just playing because (I think) we're "friends"... I don't know.

Alright, take your shots but some serious guidance on how to figure this out would be nice too.

In the meantime I think I need to get through one more day at the office so I can get into my weekend and another round of light packing.

More snow here yesterday and last night so over the past couple days we've had about 4-6 inches. Perfect. Beautiful.

Have a great day all.

Be blessed and have a great weekend.

(that should've said "proper" fashion...)

 

[Montanalo]

So, Jan, here is the advise a good friend (who is female) offered me as I ventured back into the dating scene following a lengthy and nasty divorce:

First, be yourself. If you are typically outgoing and chatty, don't crawl into a shell. Engage the other person in conversation, find common grounds of interest. People's "BS" meters are always on in today's world, so no pretense.

Second, put your fears and anxieties aside. Dating norms are differed today than even a decade ago. It is perfectly normal and acceptable for a woman to suggest a causal meeting over coffee or lunch. Strangely, my friend stated that, if you are feeling some kind of connection, chances are the other person is as well.

Third, nothing ventured nothing gain. If it works out, great. If not, then no blood, no foul.

Not to make light of the situation, imagine how much fun you will have sharing your dating experience on this site.

In all seriousness, good luck and have fun.

 

[GrammaJan]

So, Jan, here is the advise a good friend (who is female) offered me as I ventured back into the dating scene following a lengthy and nasty divorce:

First, be yourself. If you are typically outgoing and chatty, don't crawl into a shell. Engage the other person in conversation, find common grounds of interest. People's "BS" meters are always on in today's world, so no pretense.

Second, put your fears and anxieties aside. Dating norms are differed today than even a decade ago. It is perfectly normal and acceptable for a woman to suggest a causal meeting over coffee or lunch. Strangely, my friend stated that, if you are feeling some kind of connection, chances are the other person is as well.

Third, nothing ventured nothing gain. If it works out, great. If not, then no blood, no foul.

Not to make light of the situation, imagine how much fun you will have sharing your dating experience on this site.

In all seriousness, good luck and have fun.

Thank you for the thoughts. Being that it is someone I work with I don't want to jeopardize that relationship either so I'm treading lightly (clearly, if I've take a good year to allow myself to think outwardly about it.)

 

[Montanalo]

Thank you for the thoughts. Being that it is someone I work with I don't want to jeopardize that relationship either so I'm treading lightly (clearly, if I've take a good year to allow myself to think outwardly about it.)

Not to undermine my comments above but, does your company have explicit policies regarding employees dating? Most have rules against dating if either party exercise any input or control over the other's career.

I am sure you've thought about this.

 

[GrammaJan]

Not to undermine my comments above but, does your company have explicit policies regarding employees dating? Most have rules against dating if either party exercise any input or control over the other's career.

I am sure you've thought about this.

He's not an employee where I work. He works for the County and I deal with his office quite a bit, so it's "allowed"

 

[CouchCoach]

Good morning Pops and the lovelorn lads and lassies leaning on this old lothario for advice on crushes which usually lead to going steady when following my advice. I must admit, this is untested but I thought some confidence up front couldn't hurt.

Some really good advice from Colo and I am certain daboyz has a gif to demo the joys of dating. Or the horrors.

Jan, I am assuming you have already followed Colo's first piece, being yourself. That's how Mr. Wonderful, assuming he's diggin' the chicks and not hairy dudes and I am not biased, became interested in you and likes you. He definitely has to want to hang around the chickens and not the roosters. And since you referenced that twice, I sense a possible concern about this?

I also like Colo's advice about inviting him for coffee and I would add naked Mazola Twister and see which he chooses. But not both, naked Mazola Twister with coffee breath can be yucky.

The work relationship part of this is tricky. That's where I would start with my mental Yes or No list of do I put myself out there and show some wish for taking this in a more personal direction. Weigh all the options and if this has been going on for a year, you need to decide which is more important. If he's not into you as you are him, has the working relationship really been damaged or just a little awkwardness added? Seems to me a once a week encounter is keeping you from exploring something that could be a relationship to aid in your healing and sadness. I think your heart is telling you what you need. Even if he's not the one.

Jan, life is just too short and at times too lonely. When the opportunity presents itself to be happier than we are, we shouldn't deny ourselves because of some concern of how this might make the relationship awkward. It's already awkward, you are holding back. Let your heart win this one and put yourself out there and don't think of what might be awkward, think of what might be wonderful.

 

[GrammaJan]

Good morning Pops and the lovelorn lads and lassies leaning on this old lothario for advice on crushes which usually lead to going steady when following my advice. I must admit, this is untested but I thought some confidence up front couldn't hurt.

Some really good advice from Colo and I am certain daboyz has a gif to demo the joys of dating. Or the horrors.

Jan, I am assuming you have already followed Colo's first piece, being yourself. That's how Mr. Wonderful, assuming he's diggin' the chicks and not hairy dudes and I am not biased, became interested in you and likes you. He definitely has to want to hang around the chickens and not the roosters. And since you referenced that twice, I sense a possible concern about this?

I also like Colo's advice about inviting him for coffee and I would add naked Mazola Twister and see which he chooses. But not both, naked Mazola Twister with coffee breath can be yucky.

The work relationship part of this is tricky. That's where I would start with my mental Yes or No list of do I put myself out there and show some wish for taking this in a more personal direction. Weigh all the options and if this has been going on for a year, you need to decide which is more important. If he's not into you as you are him, has the working relationship really been damaged or just a little awkwardness added? Seems to me a once a week encounter is keeping you from exploring something that could be a relationship to aid in your healing and sadness. I think your heart is telling you what you need. Even if he's not the one.

Jan, life is just too short and at times too lonely. When the opportunity presents itself to be happier than we are, we shouldn't deny ourselves because of some concern of how this might make the relationship awkward. It's already awkward, you are holding back. Let your heart win this one and put yourself out there and don't think of what might be awkward, think of what might be wonderful.

Mazola Twister! Ha ha ha too funny.

As for any concern about roosters or chicks, you just can't tell these days. There are some people I know that there is no question about that sort of thing, and other rooster/rooster situations that I was surprised by because I had no clue.

 

[Runwildboys]

Morning Pops and everyone.

Winding up the week in property fashion with a chiro appointment after work. Ahhh, the single life.

I admitted to myself yesterday that what I thought wasn't a personal dilemma, was in fact, a dilemma. It's easy to talk about these things on this site because technically none of you knows me, and should it happen that I am embarrassed about something I know I can simply disappear from the forum, but I also know that any elbowing, ribbing, taunting or other form of teasing is meant in fun. That being said, what I've admitted to myself, after well over a year of denial, is that I am crushing on someone and don't know what to do about it. So junior high, I know. He's not married but what I don't know is how old he is OORRRR if he "swings from the right trees", if you know what I mean. It's someone I know through work and that I gladly get to interact with at least once a week. The other day I was at the County administration building (where he works) taking care of some office business. Apparently he saw I was there and came from his office across the way to pick on me. I've been out of this game long enough that I don't know what to make of all this so I'm calling on my pals on this site to try to pick this thing apart. Maybe he's not "straight" and just playing because (I think) we're "friends"... I don't know.

Alright, take your shots but some serious guidance on how to figure this out would be nice too.

In the meantime I think I need to get through one more day at the office so I can get into my weekend and another round of light packing.

More snow here yesterday and last night so over the past couple days we've had about 4-6 inches. Perfect. Beautiful.

Have a great day all.

Be blessed and have a great weekend.

It's entirely possible he doesn't get much attention, and picking on you gives him a pick me up, feeling that you like him. It's also possible that he's interested.

Do you share any unusual interests that wouldn't seem strange to invite him to accompany you? That way, if he says yes, you can get to know him, and if he says no, it won't be as awkward.

 

[GrammaJan]

It's entirely possible he doesn't get much attention, and picking on you gives him a pick me up, feeling that you like him. It's also possible that he's interested.

Do you share any unusual interests that wouldn't seem strange to invite him to accompany you? That way, if he says yes, you can get to know him, and if he says no, it won't be as awkward.

Not too sure about specific common interests as yet. He did confide in me about 8 months ago that he'd bought a house and was moving his dad in with him to help with his care so I ask how "dad" is doing every once in a while. He also does like photography. I've commented about some really cool pictures he has on his office wall. First time I said something about the pics he commented that he was the one that took them. I have a very novice interest in that sort of thing so that may be my means of 'approach'.

 

[Ranched]

He did confide in me about 8 months ago that he'd bought a house

Perfect!

 

[GrammaJan]

Perfect!

 

[Runwildboys]

Not too sure about specific common interests as yet. He did confide in me about 8 months ago that he'd bought a house and was moving his dad in with him to help with his care so I ask how "dad" is doing every once in a while. He also does like photography. I've commented about some really cool pictures he has on his office wall. First time I said something about the pics he commented that he was the one that took them. I have a very novice interest in that sort of thing so that may be my means of 'approach'.

Check around for any type of photo gallery shows or something like that. Or even casually mention something like one of those medieval times jousting places or something else out of the ordinary, and if it seems to pique his interest, see if he wants to go with you to check it out.

 

[Xelda]

Not too sure about specific common interests as yet. He did confide in me about 8 months ago that he'd bought a house and was moving his dad in with him to help with his care so I ask how "dad" is doing every once in a while. He also does like photography. I've commented about some really cool pictures he has on his office wall. First time I said something about the pics he commented that he was the one that took them. I have a very novice interest in that sort of thing so that may be my means of 'approach'.

Is that approach or attack? Photography is very cool. There's the lighting, angles, subject matter and all manner of interesting stuff. Buy a camera and ask for guidance with your new hobby. Wink, wink, nudge, nudge.

 

[GrammaJan]

Is that approach or attack? Photography is very cool. There's the lighting, angles, subject matter and all manner of interesting stuff. Buy a camera and ask for guidance with your new hobby. Wink, wink, nudge, nudge.

Kind of what I was thinking. I left my "old" camera with my daughter at my last visit to VA Beach and have been contemplating getting a new one, so I figured that angle (every pun intended as to photography) was one way of going about this

 

[CouchCoach]

Morning Pops and everyone.

Winding up the week in property fashion with a chiro appointment after work. Ahhh, the single life.

I admitted to myself yesterday that what I thought wasn't a personal dilemma, was in fact, a dilemma. It's easy to talk about these things on this site because technically none of you knows me, and should it happen that I am embarrassed about something I know I can simply disappear from the forum, but I also know that any elbowing, ribbing, taunting or other form of teasing is meant in fun. That being said, what I've admitted to myself, after well over a year of denial, is that I am crushing on someone and don't know what to do about it. So junior high, I know. He's not married but what I don't know is how old he is OORRRR if he "swings from the right trees", if you know what I mean. It's someone I know through work and that I gladly get to interact with at least once a week. The other day I was at the County administration building (where he works) taking care of some office business. Apparently he saw I was there and came from his office across the way to pick on me. I've been out of this game long enough that I don't know what to make of all this so I'm calling on my pals on this site to try to pick this thing apart. Maybe he's not "straight" and just playing because (I think) we're "friends"... I don't know.

Alright, take your shots but some serious guidance on how to figure this out would be nice too.

In the meantime I think I need to get through one more day at the office so I can get into my weekend and another round of light packing.

More snow here yesterday and last night so over the past couple days we've had about 4-6 inches. Perfect. Beautiful.

Have a great day all.

Be blessed and have a great weekend.

Ummmm, no you can't. Nothing is going to happen for you to have a reason to disappear from the forum. If I haven't disappeared with what I've shared, you are not allowed.

We do not judge here, we only read and hand out advice. If you follow my advice and are embarrassed, well, that's on you. Hitch up your big girl pants and take it like a woman.

I must say, between you and Colo, y'all have me intrigued about Mr. Wonderful's sexual orientation. You've got to pursue this now to satisfy my curiosity.

 

[GrammaJan]

Ummmm, no you can't. Nothing is going to happen for you to have a reason to disappear from the forum. If I haven't disappeared with what I've shared, you are not allowed.

We do not judge here, we only read and hand out advice. If you follow my advice and are embarrassed, well, that's on you. Hitch up your big girl pants and take it like a woman.

I must say, between you and Colo, y'all have me intrigued about Mr. Wonderful's sexual orientation. You've got to pursue this now to satisfy my curiosity.

I will certainly keep you posted if anything comes of this whole thing. Who knows. Maybe someone completely unexpected will enter the picture. Life is funny that way.