You know the whole "if it was my daughter" argument just serves to augment the fact that you would and cant digest more than your own perception of the situation. As a society we have an obligation to be objective, especially when accusing someone of a crime. That's why its a bunk answer, a DA would roll his eyes at you if you started your retort with that statement.
People have a right to live differently from you, you don't have the same liberties as some others do by way of position/stature/wealth/beliefs. Women have a right to progress away from being shammed for being liberated from a male dominated controlling social construct.
In short, your daughter wasn't there, I assume. I mean she isn't your daughter right, the girl in the vid? So stop imposing your values on them. If your daughter does something like this as an adult, hopefully this gives you some insight on how to treat her like a woman, and not a child. Women consistently take the initiative sometime in an aggressive way (kiss, fondle the jigglies, butt grab, ask to be taken home), and I for one don't mind it if a woman does that because I have a right to decline any advance, but more importantly it evens the field and progresses the strength and control that comes with being assertive. Can some approaches be rude, sure but that is subjective to the individual being advanced upon.
Geesh, I thought this was all common knowledge?
As for men taking liberties, again that isn't the case in this scenario, as pointed out by her. So its not an issue that should be discussed unless your still trying to impose your view on how she should take it?