Separated/Divorce

[waldoputty]

Whatever you do, remember, you have family here. Whether you need a laugh, a shoulder, or the name of a good Asian dating site. (Okay, I haven't found that last one yet. If you find one, let me know!)

i think u need to spend a few months there and ur chances r really good.
those websites are jokes.
i have a college bud (MD with $) who has been trying and getting no luv.

 

[waldoputty]

Would that be legal? I was going to ask my lawyer. My other concern is that the car is in both our names. With no insurance and she gets into an accident then I will be leaving myself open for a lawsuit...

u should at least inform her by certified mail so u have a receipt.

 

[lukin2006]

Yep, if you're on the title of that vehicle you'd possibly be liable in the event of an accident,,,best if we rethink on this,,,

I was thinking better let my lawyer address this ... now I want my name off that car.

 

[The Fonz]

Whatever you do, remember, you have family here. Whether you need a laugh, a shoulder, or the name of a good Asian dating site. (Okay, I haven't found that last one yet. If you find one, let me know!)

I have few of them you would love just don't tell Melon

 

[SlammedZero]

I haven’t felt like this in I can’t tell you how long, but I have found music to be a great source of comfort along with my dogs and work sadly. Keep your chin up.

This is an excellent idea. I know we are all different, and I am into music a lot more than most people, but I find a lot of strength, perseverance, and solace through music. Music has an energy to it and it has helped get me through fun, good, bad, ok, tough, and dark times of my life. Even if you fit the type of music to your mood, it has a funny way of letting you know that you're not alone in your moment.

Don't be hard on yourself though. We're all human. I'm still relatively young but one thing I have learned in my short journey is that YOU WILL be ok. Life moves on and I am sure you already know that time is precious. Don't waste it on somebody who isn't worth it.

 

[kskboys]

I hear ya I have never dated one myself but i do understand all the things you mentioned.Most filipinas looking for financial security. and the men after them looking for a form of validation.

Validation? If that means easy lay and a chick hotter than you'd normally get, yeah, validation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[kskboys]

I knew it was over when she admitted that she left me off her work health benefits (these benefits are of no cost to her) ... what does that say? I am 53 with a disability and no benefits? My first impression when I found was "that's spiteful and mean". That's also when I realized she could not have much feeling for me anymore ... I asked her about my needs, her reply " keep the receipts and she'll reimburse me" ... why not just add me ... let the insurance pay.

Where I feel like a real fool ... 5 years ago was she handling our finances into bankruptcy. I took over the finances after that and rebuilt the finances ... she racked me over the coals about my frugal ways. For one, I am not cheap ... I don't waste money. In the last 25 years we've been to Costa Rica, Mexico, Bahamas, Panama Canal Cruise, the Canadian Rockies, Florida (often), California, Arizona, Guatemala, Grand Canyon, Sequoia, Everglades and many more places, been to many sporting events and concerts...these things were possible because I was frugal. Many of these trips happened when I was handling the money. Since we have separated I have handed her close to 10 000 from my savings so she could take a 3 week UK vacation (I was totally supportive), 2 weeks after she gets back she ends the marriage. I've also spent close to 10 000 on house and vehicle repairs.

It turns out that me doing all will benefit me in the divorce and she may have to re-pay some of the money. I do know this. I doubt she has much money, even after bankruptcy she is still terrible with money.

And after-all this I still have feelings for her. I made a commitment to myself that July 1st I am moving on from her. My lawyer will get everything sorted out quickly. I worked hard the last 25 years, developed a disability ... this divorce will not derail my plans to take it easy in my 50's.

Also I foolishly gave her 2 weeks to get her own insurance for her car. I should just cancel it.

No. Maintain your integrity. If you told her you'd do it, do it.

You should be the adult. Treat her firmly and fairly in everything. If you start playing her little games, you will be belittling yourself. Remove your emotions from the entire situation and simply be fair and honorable through the proceedings.

Do not let her get to you in any way anymore. If you need solace and advice or just an ear, we are here for you.

 

[Xelda]

I was thinking better let my lawyer address this ... now I want my name off that car.

If payments are still being made on it, you need to talk to the finance deptartment. It will be difficult since finance companies want the security of both parties. If it's paid for and she can be trusted to register it in her name only, you'd need to sign the title to the vehicle and an act of donation to your ex. Get copies to keep. I don't know if you're in a notary state or not. There should be no taxes since her name is on it already, just a fee for a new title which shouldn't be very much.

(Edit* I just saw where you're in Canada. I have no idea about the laws up there. Find a safe place and keep copies of everything either of you sign concerning obligations and property.)

 

[kskboys]

If payments are still being made on it, you need to talk to the finance deptartment. It will be difficult since finance companies want the security of both parties. If it's paid for and she can be trusted to register it in her name only, you'd need to sign the title to the vehicle and an act of donation to your ex. Get copies to keep. I don't know if you're in a notary state or not. There should be no taxes since her name is on it already, just a fee for a new title which shouldn't be very much.

Yeah, just dump the car. Find a way to simply get it in her name only.

 

[GMO415]

From all the guys at work....they always say "I would wish a divorce (process) on my worse enemy". It really must be terrible.

 

[The Fonz]

Validation? If that means easy lay and a chick hotter than you'd normally get, yeah, validation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When it comes to relationship they have something you want you have something they want I would say it is fair trade.
That has been the game from day one on this earth.Some might sugarcoat it with some fancy terms but the truth is u ain't getting anything if u don't give.
Being nice person with a good heart only won't buy you even a piece of bread.Think of it as a business contract.

 

[kskboys]

When it comes to relationship they have something you want you have something they want I would say it is fair trade.
That has been the game from day one on this earth.Some might sugarcoat it with some fancy terms but the truth is u ain't getting anything if u don't give.
Being nice person with a good heart only won't buy you even a piece of bread.Think of it as a business contract.

Absolutely.

 

[Melonfeud]

i think u need to spend a few months there and ur chances r really good.
those websites are jokes.
i have a college bud (MD with $) who has been trying and getting no luv.

Sez' the cat of mouse tail yearnings,,,,


Mega FEUDIAN Wong banging Wally's Gong

 

[Runwildboys]

I twice suspected her of having an affair ... both times she denied it. But she was not shocked by the question either time. That's why I feel like a fool ... I have beed wondering that myself.

Once you're over her, even that won't matter to you.
Shortly after my divorce, my ex stopped at.my.house, and I could see her boyfriend hiding in the car. I just chuckled.

 

[Melonfeud]

No. Maintain your integrity. If you told her you'd do it, do it.

You should be the adult. Treat her firmly and fairly in everything. If you start playing her little games, you will be belittling yourself. Remove your emotions from the entire situation and simply be fair and honorable through the proceedings.

Do not let her get to you in any way anymore. If you need solace and advice or just an ear, we are here for you.

Are you 'flipping fer' real'?
*remove yer' emotions from the situation* ,,,,'Hacksaw Reynolds of the original L.A. RAMS ring a bell?
* belittling himself?,,, dude! Yer' outta' tune to the fiddle music he's been strumming all along

 

[Runwildboys]

From all the guys at work....they always say "I would wish a divorce (process) on my worse enemy". It really must be terrible.

It depends on the people involved. My ex and I only hired one lawyer between us, to do the paperwork.
We had everything divvied up before it was even finalized.
I was lucky in that regard.

 

[Runwildboys]

Are you 'flipping fer' real'?
*remove yer' emotions from the situation* ,,,,'Hacksaw Reynolds of the original L.A. RAMS ring a bell?
* belittling himself?,,, dude! Yer' outta' tune to the fiddle music he's been strumming all along

He's just saying not to let his emotions rule his actions. Stay on an even keel, and you give yourself the best chance of walking away without self destructing.

 

[lukin2006]

If payments are still being made on it, you need to talk to the finance deptartment. It will be difficult since finance companies want the security of both parties. If it's paid for and she can be trusted to register it in her name only, you'd need to sign the title to the vehicle and an act of donation to your ex. Get copies to keep. I don't know if you're in a notary state or not. There should be no taxes since her name is on it already, just a fee for a new title which shouldn't be very much.

(Edit* I just saw where you're in Canada. I have no idea about the laws up there. Find a safe place and keep copies of everything either of you sign concerning obligations and property.)

The car is paid for...

 

[lukin2006]

Once you're over her, even that won't matter to you.
Shortly after my divorce, my ex stopped at.my.house, and I could see her boyfriend hiding in the car. I just chuckled.

 

[CouchCoach]

Hey, Trouty, don't give it a second thought. You spoke from the heart, which one of the things I truly enjoy about your posts. From my perspective, you're one of the most respected and well-liked posters on this board.

Well, he was until he snapped and bit all of our heads off!!!!!